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Saturday, December 25, 2010

Merry CHRISTmas!

We had a very busy Christmas this year, no surprise there, but wasn't it wonderful.  I think if I make a picture diary of all the events in the run up to Christmas you'll understand what an amazing Christmas it really was.  The unbelievable thing is, that Lutaaya took it all in her stride.  The visitors, the gifts, the food, the madness of shoppers at Christmas time!  All in a day for her.  No upset whatsoever, she just enjoyed and treasured every second.
She absolutely loved watching The Nativity on TV.  She sat, eyes glued to the TV.  We spent each week waiting for the next episode.  As Mary pondered all the things and treasured the moments in her heart, so did I this Christmas.  A huge step forward for us as a family to welcome our little angel into our hearts.

The HUGE Christmas shop!


Christmas crafts at church

Time with Santa, it's funny how shy a little girl can go when she get's starstruck by Santa


My little angel

So beautiful

My two favourite girls in the world

Christingle

Christmas morning - so many gifts to look through

Lutaaya nearly ended up IN the sack on so many occasions!!!!

What a mess?!  What a joy?!

My smart little lady for Christmas day


The proud grandparents - Grandad and Jjajja

Christmas dinner at Auntie Andrea's

Saturday, December 18, 2010

A choice to walk past

We've been in hectic Christmas mode lately meaning blogs have been few and far between.  To be honest, life as a Mammy has been very eventful so far, add into the scenario that Christmas is around the corner and you'll understand how I barely have time to sit and type the blog.  Though I will try and steal some moments to keep everyone posted.

Lutaaya is settling well.  I think the whole excitement of Christmas is carying her through at the moment.  It's hard, with the severe snow we've experienced, to go out and meet people.  We were fortunate tonight to deliver some Christmas cards to neighbours and Lutaaya met a neighbours daughter, who she will go to school with in the New Year. 

I cannot believe the amount of snow we have had fall over the past two days!  We are all snowed in.  Dad's car is a gem in the snow and we managed to go about as normal today, heading to Cardiff to finish off our Christmas shopping.  Unfortunately as we walked in the one shopping mall, me and Lutaaya on our own as my parents wanted to do some 'secret shopping', we witnessed a lady in the jewellery counter have a seizure.  I was amazed how many people could see this happening, and yet simply chose to walk past.  The girls working in the shop obviously had no first aid training and appeared frightened and unsure of what to do.  I explained to Lutaaya that I was going to go and help.  I tried saying instructions over the shop counter at first and then the staff allowed me into the kiosk to help, hands on.  I must admit I was extemely worried for the girl who had fitted.  She looked very poorly and took a long time to initially stop fitting, and then even longer to make any sense or recognise where she was.  Still people passed by without giving a second look.  Yes I could have joined them.  Yes I could have stopped my daughter witnessing the lady fitting, and vomitting blood.  Yes I could have ignored the fact I saw her drop to the floor and yes I could have kept quiet about having a first aid certificate.  But no I couldn't walk past.  No I couldn't live with myslelf if I hadn't helped and the girl had not had medical help.  No I couldn't have taught my daughter the lesson that in this situation we walk past.  We don't!  We stop and help our neighbours.  Lutaaya wasn't phased by the ordeal and I don't think she saw the seriousness of the lady's illness.  My prayer tonight is that the young lady gets the medical help she needs and makes a full recovery.

I guess my life is based on the morals that I don't walk past.  I could have gone to Uganda, as many people do, seen the children and fulfilled a gap in my own self-esteem, of being seen as helping.  I could have come home and returned to everything as normal.  I made the choice not to walk past then, as I did today.  I cannot simply ignore something going on around me and if I can, I will offer to help.  Initially in Uganda I offered to help by sponsoring a child.  I then moved onto starting the whole adoption process.  I didn't weigh everything up, I didnt doubt the finances of it all, I trusted that, if God had placed this calling on my heart, then He would provide all that was needed.  And so far, and ongoing, He is doing just that!  All things are possible to those who trust in Jesus, and having Lutaaya here this Christmas, is living proof of that.

So this Christmas, please trust your heart.  Sometimes we are so caught up in our own lives and 'problems' we fail to see those of others.  Look around you and make that one choice: Stop and help, don't walk past!   

Monday, December 13, 2010

New skills

It's quite easy to forget how far my little girl has come in her life journey.  Every day is a learning experience for her.  New people to meet and new skills to learn.  It's also really easy to forget quite how many skills she has learned.  In the orphanage where she is from, she would never have eaten with cutlery, she would have used her hands for this.  So being able to sit at a table and eat cleanly with a knife and fork is a huge achievement, that for most children, at 9 years old, we take for granted.  But how proud am I when I see her doing this.

 

Sunday, December 12, 2010

The Most Magical Time of the Year

I love Christmas!  It's official.  I live all the festivities and the child inside us all that this time of year brings out.  This year will be even more magical as I get to share it with not only all my family, but also Lutaaya this year.  She has been in my heart every Christmas since I met her, but this year she won't only be in my heart but in our house.  We'll be sharing the joy of Christmas together!  I thank God for making that happen.

I am loving seeing her face light up already.  We have had so much laughter in our lives this past week or so.  She really has brightened up more than a few people's lives.  She loves watching every intricate detail of everything.  She loves seeing how things work and also copying others to see if she can do the same things herself. 

We started the day with a wonderful church service, where some of the congregation took on the Nativity roles.  It was delightful to watch.  Everyone certainly gave their all.  Lutaaya particularly loved seeing her Auntie Andrea dress up as a shepherd!  Sorry Andrea but your photo just had to be shared!


Then it was off to the giant toy shop.  I must admit it's difficult to pick up presents when you have a very nosey little girl with you!  We had some tactics to make sure we picked up all that we needed and even roped Auntie Rachel in to come over on our return and distract Lutaaya so that gifts for Santa to collect could be hurried in and hidden away from prying little eyes.

Final job of the night - put our tree up.  Lutaaya's eyes have been so bright and she's had so much energy.  She really is in the festive spirit.  We had some giggles along the way, with the tree initially not fitting in it's spot, and then baubles needing tying and then falling off.  We also have the job of distracting Gypsy, our kitten, away from the tree.  She's spotted the baubles and thinks her Christmas has arrived.  I'm wondering how long the tree will remain standing for at this rate?  Although for the time being, just like my daughter, our tree is perfect and beautiful.

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Father Christmas

We got into the festive spirit even more so today  We met Auntie Jo, Uncle Rob and their girlies and went on the Mountain Railway to go see Father Christmas.  It is one of the fastest times I have seen Lutaaya get up and get ready to go out.  She was obviously VERY excited.  We arrived earlier than Jo and her gang so we waited in the car,  Lutaaya checked every car and stated, 'No', after checking each one didn't contain Auntie Jo.  Such excitement.

So onto the train we go.  Uncle Rob treated everyone to a chocolate lollipop which made their day.  Santa awaited the arrival of the train and waved at all the children.  Lutaaya's face lit up on seeing him.

Loving cuddles once again with Amelia

Little chocoholic
It was magical to walk into Santa's grotto.  A little overwhelming for Lutaaya though, who suddenly turned silent on seeing the special man.  When he asked her what she wanted as her special present, she couldn't find the words to say anything.  So Santa helped her out by saying he'll bring her some surprises.  She's looking forward to seeing what he brings.

First time Father Christmas meeting

Treats and goodies off Santa

By the steam engine....is that Rob or someone off Thomas the Tank?

A cheesy grin with Mammy
We have finished off a very Christmas filled day, with a shopping trip with Auntie Andrea to buy a real Christmas tree for her house.  Lutaaya was so excited. We have also planned that we will put our tree up tomorrow and get into the spirit of things.  Our letter to Santa can then be left for him to collect overnight!  How exciting for a little girl?

Some good news to share too.  The Gaddis family have reached home safely and been reunited with their other children.  Amazing stuff!  Finally Jaydn gets to meet her full forever family.

Festive fun

Tonight we had a Christmas meal at our church.  Lutaaya loved it!  She loved the fact she was able to meet up with my God-daughter and her brother and sister again, as well as spend time with family and finally see Auntie Rachel.  She repeated things Rachel said and I was starting to panic she would pick up her very 'Welsh' accent! 


The Three Wise Monkeys!

Lutaaya ate well here and really enjoyed taking part in the fun stalls, to raise funds for our church.  She was so eager to see if she'd won a prize.  She was so happy that she won several prizes and couldn't wait to get them home and open them.  Auntie Rachel also had a big win, winning the Christmas hamper.  The amazing thing is the event, which was enjoyed by all who attended, also raised over £400 for our church.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

New Friends, new experiences

We were so cold on Tuesday when we ventured out, that we've decided to stay indoors for the past two days.  So today we waited excitedly, for my God-daughter and her sister to join us for tea.  Lutaaya was so excited, she even offered to help tidy the house before their arrival.  We have found that moving from living with 20+ other children, to suddenly being on her own, has affected her and she missed the company.  This seemed the perfect opportunity to give her some social time with people around her own age. 

They have loved their evening.  They started with some drawings and crafts.  This became even more fun when the cat decided the cords were for her.  The kids were quick to then turn the tables and chase the poor cat to make her the game!

The girls played happily together as Gypsy decided she wanted part of the action



Poor Gypsy - maybe took on too much to handle?

Run Gypsy, Run!
Once the cords activity was cleaned up and tea had been eaten, we decided to have a treat and make cookies.  Lutaaya wasn't too sure whether or not she'd enjoy being messed up with dough, but copying the girls, she managed just fine.  She loved laughing at everything, who was brave enough to taste the mixture, who made the most mess?  So many new things to experience in her first cooking activity.  It was wonderful to watch the three girls get on so well and bond.  Lutaaya loved being able to play and talk, as well as hug and laugh with them.

Messy fun

Geting the hang of things

New ways of having fun and learning, every day!
Lutaaya decided, after the girls left our house, that she didn't like her cookies.  I don't think she wanted to say while the girls were here bless her.  I explained that it was fine not to like them, it was the making them that was the fun part.  The girls disagreed I'm sure, as on their way out, they stuffed cookies in mouths, with lots of mmmmmmmmm's.

Lutaaya has gone to bed with happy thoughts.  She has enjoyed her evening and I look forward to the next time the girls can get together.  Hopefully be fitting in a Christmas craft day before the Big Day!

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Settling in

Lutaaya seems to be settling in exceptionally well.  We didn't even have any grumbles today when our house turned into a classroom so we could do some work, not for her to fall behind with what she already knows.

It's a strange time to be settling in as obviously we have all the added drama of Christmas.  It's a magical time of year and Lutaaya is loving seeing all the Christmas adverts on TV and all the gifts in the shop.  It seems a million miles away from the life she had this time last year.  She explained how she had a lot of gifts last Christmas, but then went on to explain that these were a basin for bathing and a towel.  Not really what you'd think of an 8 year old to have.  So this year, her face is lighting up when she sees the choices of gifts she would like.  As any child has, she has her wish list for Santa.  It's growing every day too.  We have explained Santa has to give things to every child so he may not bring everything, but I know this year will be magical, not only for her, but for the rest of us watching her explore this special time of year. 

Writing our wish list to Santa with a watchful Gypsy close by.


Gypsy, our kitten, has been so funny since Lutaaya arrived home.  She doesn't leave her side.  Lutaaya wasn't that keen initially as, being a kitten, Gypsy can be a little flighty.  Now they seem to have an understanding.  Gypsy is everywhere Lutaaya goes.  She watches everything she does, follows her around the house, wants to take part in anything she's doing and wants to try eating everything she eats.  Lutaaya has been very patient in letting Gypsy be by her side.  A forever friendship is growing I think.

Lutaaya has been spoiled rotten by friends and family, who have all been keen to visit and meet our new addition.  It's amazing to see how many peoples lives our adoption has touched.  So many people have brought so many gifts. Today she was able to meet Auntie Jo with little Amelia.  She has been looking forward to this visit so much as she wanted a cuddle of the baby.  Amelia didn't disappoint and happily sat on Lutaaya's lap and gurgled away.  We have another play-date planned for them on Saturday, when we go to see Father Christmas together.  How exciting!

Being the photographer!  Her gift from Auntie Gaynor and Uncle Adrian

Finally she gets to meet the little visitor she's been waiting for
Tonight we go to bed after hearing some good and amazing news.  God has performed a miracle in Uganda!  Bethany and Nathan have not only now received their ruling, but will have their visa tomorrow, meaning they can be home on the weekend and be re-united with the rest of their family.  To read the update on their story click here Be prepared to be amazed.

Monday, December 6, 2010

SNOW place like home!

Well we've returned to Wales.  Freezing cold Wales.  I love the snow so I must admit this was a wonderful homecoming, it's just a shame you can't have snow with sunshine to keep the temperature just up a little.  The unbelievable thing is, that I seem to be suffering a lot more than Lutaaya, who some how manages to stay like a little hot water bottle.

We haven't really stopped since we came home.  She's had so many family and friends to meet.  We also had to make the most of this snow.  So day 1 activity just had to be a sleigh ride down to the Great-grandparents house.  Grandad pulled her all the way and she giggled every inch of the way, especially at the curbsides, where the ride became a little bumpy and she thought she may fall out.  Nan was there waiting to meet her little snow queen.






We have loved spending time with our family and they have loved spending time with Lutaaya.  She has been spoiled rotten already.  I'm sure this will help with her adjusting to her new life though.  If she feels loved, then that will help her feel at ease within the new settings.

Sunday, December 5, 2010

On our way home

A very excited little girl prepared for the plane ride.  Her behaviour indicates when she's excited, and she did tell me she was a little scared.  Understandable I guess when you think this is all new and she's pretty clueless as to what a plane is, how it works and where she is going.  No matter how many aeroplane books you read, nothing can really describe the feeling you have as you soar above the clouds.  We were ready in 2 hours, all ready to go to the airport.  Finally we get to go home!
The airport was an experience in itself.  We managed to get through the first lot of x-ray machines, that are located before check-in!  Not sure why they do this in Uganda, when you can see people manage to get spears/swords through???  As I pull off our luggage the other side, I notice Lutaaya is not by my side.  I turn and see the airport lady has gripped her arm.  She is speaking to her in Lugandan, meaning I had no idea what she was saying.  I could tell by Lutaaya's face that she was not impressed.  So I shout across and ask her to come and pick up her cases.  The woman refuses to release her arm.  Back of my mind thinks, here we go.  First hurdle of the airport journey.  Little did I know this would be the beginning of the escapade.  So I call over and ask if she can come to me, in a very strong and sure voice.  The woman then lets her go, and thanks me to taking care of 'the child'. 
We go to check-in and unbelievably it is my passport that causes concern.  The lady on the desk, who is unbelievably shirty with me, says they have no record of me entering the country or being on a flight, and I have no stamp in my passport.  Now I know I have the stamp in my passport but she would not give me my passport back.  Nightmare!  I know the stamp I need to say I entered the country is there, but I am helpless to show her.  To her, I entered the country illegally!  Eventually she hands me my passport back and says she hopes I'll be ok.  I don't want to hope I'll be ok, I wanted to know I would be fine.  I must admit I had great joy in finding the stamp and putting it directly in her face.  Have that, rude lady!
So next step in the airport: immigration.  This is where the stamp kicks in.  They then stamp to show that you have left the country on your entry stamp.  What I didn't know was that I needed a copy of the legal guardianship order to leave with them.  The lady, again was really stroppy and had a bad attitude.  Thankfully, I had a copy in my bag.  (Not sure what would have happened if I didn't have this?)  This satisfied the lady at the kiosk and she stamped both our passports, giving us the ok to leave!  Woohoo, Thank God we are on our way home.
Then we hear even more disappointing news.  Our flight is delayed.  It should have left at 1.45am and now it will leave at 5.20am!  We were given food vouchers to tide us over.  We had already eaten but could do with a drink, so off we go to see if we can spend the voucher on a drink.  The man was so helpful.  He says rather than us waste the voucher, he lets Lutaaya spend it on drinks and chocolates.  Sugar high look out.  At least it kept her going til we managed to get on the plane.

So we waited and waited.  Then they ask us to go through to the Departure Gate.  It gives us false hope that we are leaving soon.  Unfortunately it just meant they cleared us from the main airport, and put us, like caged animals, in a smaller room, filled with flies and mosquitos.  Going through the passport check, the staff are so abrupt, 'What relation to this child are you?'.  Made me feel like saying I'd just found her on the street and dragged her in.  Can people not understand that to get the visa stamp in the passport, takes more than a fluke? 
The snow, which I normally love, is the cause of the problem to our delay.  The snow is that bad in Amsterdam, they have to wait for the runways to be cleared!  I hadn't given thought to the snow being in Amsterdam I must admit. 

Finally we board our flight.  Lutaaya is able to talk through all the stages of going through the airport after reading her plane book.  She loved going through the tunnel, onto the plane and finding our seat.  Right at the back of the plane.  Her eyes were everywhere and they lit up when she saw she had a TV right in front of her. 


She made me giggle as she watched the safety video.  As they explain about the life jackets, she looks around to see if anyone is actually putting them on.  Then says, 'We don't have to wear?'  You don't really want to tell a 9 year old, who has never flown that no we don't need them unless we crash.  I simply answered no.

I thought that by this point, bearing in mind we have gone through the night without sleep, that she would be exhausted and look forward to sleeping.  I must have forgotten how excited she was.  Straight on with a film once we were in the air.  She gasped as we took off and her tummy turned over.  After that, she took flying in her stride.  I actually fell asleep before my film finished and she tapped me to say hers had finished too.  Obviously tired at this point as she turned her TV off and snuggled down to sleep.

Amsterdam proved a difficult part to our journey.  We missed our connecting flight to Cardiff due to the delay.  The lady at Entebbe told us that we could catch the next flight to Cardiff in the afternoon.  She couldn't issue us boarding passes though and explained we could collect them at Amsterdam.  Obviously Amsterdam was crazy with lots of delayed flights.  People were everywhere and there weren't enough staff to go round.  They use a ticket system that you take a number then wait to be seen at the desk.  Unfortunately this system took a long time, when so many people needed re-booking on flights.  So after waiting over an hour I asked a lady to help.  She was very kind and looked into our flight for us.  She managed to say what flight we were on and printed off our boarding passes. 

So back on another plane.  This time the plane is just a city hopper so much smaller than the first plane.  No TV's this time, so the air hostess demostrates the safety procedures.  Again Lutaaya sees the bright yellow safety jackets and hears that they are situated under your seat.  She leans forward, hand down and searchers for hers.  We don't have she says.  Bless her.  Desperate to know where her yellow jacket is. 

This time it's a short flight, and it's made by daylight.  So Lutaaya has her face up against the window, looking at the clouds.  How amazing this must be to a little mind?

Then touch down.  Cardiff here we come!  One last hurdle before we're on the ome run: immigration.  It's so daunting.  Even though you know you have everything you need and everything has been completed legitimately, you know that should this one person find fault, we could be heading back to Africa.  They procesed us quickly in fairness.  Lutaaya had to wait and give her fingerprints.  I guess it's to check I haven't smuggled the wrong child out.  All matched, so passport stamped and away we go.  Off to meet Jjajaa (My mother) and Auntie Andrea.  Welsh soil and one car ride to home!
Wrapped up for the snow!